Post Surgical Orgasms - Too Much Information

[clovehitched]

I've had a few orgasms since surgery, but all of them have been the sort where you "just" manage to peak, and then fizzle. What I've missed out on was the kind of orgasm where you convulse and that rapid "whoosh" of intense feeling spreads rapidly outwards from the glans penis/clitoris (delete as applicable). The one where, if you have male anatomy or a well developed G-spot, there's an accompanying mess from ejaculation. The last one of those that I had was on January 2nd, 2007, 2 days before my surgery.

I'd resigned myself to never having another one as long as I live, which was a bit of a downer, but not the end of the world. I could still get a lot of benefit from the less explosive, "minor" orgasms that I was able to attain post surgery, and there's not the burning need for relief through orgasm that I'd frequently get pre-ostrogen, where I would typically masturbate daily in the shower not for fun, but just to drain built up tension, because I needed to. Having such compulsion and not being able to do anything about is not somewhere I'd like to find myself in life, not at all!

Anyway, yesterday things changed. My attention had been drawn to a rather explicit video online which involved a physically attractive dominant lady doing quite horrid things to her male submissive's abdomen. Watching it stirred something down below in a way that's been very elusive since surgery; I decided to put my hand down there and go with it.

About 30 seconds later, that feeling I'd resigned myself to experiencing only in memories returned, and I was momentarily grateful for the sound insulation in modern houses. I also found out that my prostate, despite an almost total lack of testosterone, is in good working order, and that I needed a change of underwear *blush*.

Perhaps something changed recently - I did feel a bunch of nerves come "online" a few days ago, and perhaps it was enough to push me over a threshold. I've also been taking microgenised progesterone recently, which might have something to do with it (it seems less harsh on my moods than Provera). Regardless, when Liz Hills, Mr Thomas' clinical assistant, told me it can take 18 months or more to regain enough sensation for orgasm she wasn't kidding. Having it back is ... nice, and I hope it won't be too hard to achieve again.

Perhaps I also owe Dr Curtis a little bit of credit too, for his suggestion that I use porn to try and stimulate my sex drive postop ("visual stimulation", or something like that was how he put it). At the time I thought that suggestion was a bit much, but it did the job of lighting the fires this time.

Comments

[asknosecrets.livejournal.com]

*Applauds*

No, seriously - I know what a lack of responsiveness is like (while we're sharing TMI, it seems the issues down the left side of my body aren't exclusively on my left any more, which leads to a not-happy-Jack) So I'm glad you've got back what you were missing!

[zoefruitcake.livejournal.com]

it did the job of lighting the fires this time.

yay for firelighters ;0)

[1ngi.livejournal.com]

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!

What fabulous news! Happy happy happy for you.

I prescribe lots of practise. :)

[auntysarah.livejournal.com]

I prescribe lots of practise. :)

Duly noted ;-)

You have a wonderful way with your choice of icons, you know...

[1ngi.livejournal.com]

te he *mwah* darlink xxx

[hazelstitch.livejournal.com]

Wooot!

[nicollegurrl.livejournal.com]

YAY!

* practice makes perfect * :D

[choptliver.livejournal.com]

Excellent news!

[phonemonkey.livejournal.com]

HOORAY!

*happy orgasm dance*

Also, any chance of a link to the video? It sounds rather...enlightening.

[auntysarah.livejournal.com]

You have a PM. Not comfortable linking to it in here.

[auntysarah.livejournal.com]

You too have a PM.

[alicephilippa.livejournal.com]

Maybe I'm odd but that video did nothing for me :S

Oh, well...

[nicollegurrl.livejournal.com]

I do not see a link? :-(

[auntysarah.livejournal.com]

She saw it at my place yesterday.

[auntysarah.livejournal.com]

To each, their own kink, I think.

BTW, to be perfectly clear, I have absolutely no desire to participate in it, but watching it was kinda hot.

[zoeimogen.livejournal.com]

Doesn't do anything for me either!

[the-local-echo.livejournal.com]

Me neither. Tis a funny old world.

[bloodbeauty.livejournal.com]

yay! congratulations


the burning need for relief through orgasm that I'd frequently get pre-ostrogen, where I would typically masturbate daily in the shower not for fun, but just to drain built up tension, because I needed to.

i have this pre T...

this is why i'm scared. although, how much worse can i get? *sigh* don't answer that.

[auntysarah.livejournal.com]

yay! congratulations

Thank you!

i have this pre T...

this is why i'm scared. although, how much worse can i get?

At least with that much T in your system it's easy to deal with.

[cyberspice.livejournal.com]

Yay for you. It was pointed out that citalopram can kill orgasms. I got my sex drive back about the same I went on SSRIs so more than likely the irony is that I'm either depressed with orgasms or happy without them!

[julieisfree.livejournal.com]

One of my first questions for you is: are you on anti-depressants? Those are notorious for blocking orgasms. For several months post op, I was on Celexa, and orgasms were elusive, and could only be achieved with copious amounts of visual stimulation, etc, etc. Since I stopped taking celexa though, my response has gone through the roof. I'm as orgasmic, if not just a bit more orgasmic that I was pre-op. The intensity is at least as strong, if not more powerful. Then of course, there is the long, lovely, and delightful afterglow that I'd never known before. The precipitous drop in testosterone pre-op always sabotaged afterglow. Without "T" though, I can now revel in the full intensity of lying there on my bed heaving f-o-r-e-v-e-r-r-r-r-r.

[tekalynn.livejournal.com]

Oh, that's (one of) the best parts! : )

[auntysarah.livejournal.com]

I'm not on anti-depressants, but I do have low libido a lot of the time. I realise I have a bit of an image as a raging kinky type, but a lot of the time I actually feel quite asexual, and suspect it has something to do with testosterone levels. Provera helps, but it's a bit of a balancing act because it tends to give me what, for want of a better description, one might call PMT. It's taken a long time to get sufficient sensation back too.

But yeah, it was really nice :-)

[moonspark.livejournal.com]

*wants a link to the video too* :)

[auntysarah.livejournal.com]

You got it :-)

[emperor]

Well, that is what the internet is for ;-)

[cmcmck.livejournal.com]

Congratulations! I remember that first experience a long time ago and as a person with no previous sexual experience at all it was a helluva shock, believe me :o)

[angharads-house.livejournal.com]

ah, yes, memory lane ^_^

[earwigmc.livejournal.com]

=grin=

[bird-of-paradox.livejournal.com]

Not TMI at all... I'm a little under 12 months post-op and, well, y'know... :(
Information about other people's experiences is almost impossible to find and being single and solitary doesn't help.
So it's reassuring to know that there may be hope, sometime in the future.