I was having a very interesting discussion with an academic the other day about feminism per se, and ze pointed out that while the concept of feminism - loosely speaking, that everyone deserves the same human rights - has permeated our culture, in fact the behaviour that would back it up has not happened. So we have this situation where a woman says, "I deserve to be treated with basic decency." and people (not just men) say "Oh god are you on about that again? That's so old-school feminist." and then feel they've done their bit and can ignore her.